Female Orgasm Tips

I don't claim to be the end-all be all "god in bed," so take each "tip" with some grain of salt. Also, no two women are alike. What will work with some won't work on others. However, much of this comes from feedback that I've received as well as my own personal experience.

1. Take it slow. Don't try to rush things, even if it seems like she wants to "speed things up." The longer you delay (within reason), the more likely the outcome.

2. Tease. Tease. Tease. When you're in bed with your "lover," remember that one of the very few moments when you have "power sexually" over another woman is while you tease. Take advantage of this. Don't go straight for the clit, avoid it. Explore her body. Touch her. Run your hands slowly and lightly over her entire body.

3. Be aware. Pay attention to what you are doing and how she is reacting. Most women do not scream out and moan and groan like a pornstar. Most are far more subtle than that. Hear how she is breathing. Feel when she tightens up (not necessarily her pussy). Often times when a woman suddenly tightens up, it's usually because you are being too rough.

4. Don't think Porn, think of her. This is so important. Often, what is portrayed in Porn is simply acting. Simple in and out often can be numbing and (unfortunately) boring to many women. Learn to move your body, learn to change pace from fast to slow to fast then back to slow again. Additionally, the simple "in/out" often neglects most women's primary "orgasm" organ, the clit. Use your body to thrust and rub against her clitoris. Or, have yourself or the woman touch it themselves.

5. Enjoy yourself and each other. This is the most important. Society has ingrained in our heads that the "female orgasm" is everything. This is simply not true at all. Women can have orgasms and completely feel unfullfilled (and vice-versa). Sex is about enjoying each other, not about reaching orgasm. If your not enjoying each other, no matter what you do or how "hard" you try, nothing is going to come out of it. (No pun intended).


So many women have told me the same thing: "Every guy fucks the same." Or, "most men have no clue on what to do in bed." Maybe we all need to take some time out and enjoy each other.